Frequently Asked Questions

 

How do I know if psychotherapy will help me?

This is a really valuable question to ask yourself. Many people find pychotherapy to be a powerful enabler of change and you are most likely to benefit if you are open to reflecting on your experiences and looking at things from a different perspective. It also helps to know what you want to get from coming and this would be the focus of our first session. We would then review how helpful you are finding the process as we went along, to make sure you were getting the most from it and to change our approach as need be.

Do I want therapy or coaching? And what’s the difference?

Both are non-directive, so I won’t tell you what to do. Instead I will facilitate you discovering your own answers and supporting you on your journey, whatever that looks like.

Generally speaking psychotherapy is most helpful if you are unsure what isn’t working in your life, you’re generally unhappy, think that your relationships keep following the same unhelpful pattern or you are suffering from mental health problems. Coaching is the best approach for more distinct areas of your life that you want to change but are either unsure how to go about it, don’t quite know what direction to take next or need help overcoming some obstacles on your path.

How much of a commitment would I need to make?

That depends entirely on you and what you want to get from the process. Coaching tends to be of a more fixed duration, with longer, less frequent sessions. Four to six sessions of an hour and a half, every 4 – 6 weeks is common.

Psychotherapy is more frequent, generally weekly for 50 minute sessions at a time. We can agree the number of sessions initially and then review progress and agree as we go on whether that still seems the best fit for you. Short term psychotherapy is generally up to 6 – 8 weeks. Long term could be 6 months, a year or open ended, i.e. with no agreed end date. With long term work it is in many ways even more important that we review every 6 weeks or so what you are getting and still might need from our work together.

Do I have to do anything in between sessions?

Nothing is compulsory. However with some types of psychotherapy, particularly the coherence therapy which I often use in the Memory approach and many of the coping strategies/resilience methods, I do suggest prompts and reminders for you to try out in between sessions. Again, you don’t have to do any of them but you are far more likely to see the benefit of the work we do in the sessions if you do.

What happens if I can’t make a session?

I ask people to give me 5 days notice if they have to cancel a session. Unfortunately if I have less notice than this, I will have to make a charge.

What if I can’t get to you?

I provide both psychotherapy and coaching face to face in Brighton. In some circumstances I can also offer both by VSee (an alternative to Skype) so if this is of interest to you, please do get in touch to see whether this would be possible.